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A Shift in Perspective for 2020!

30 Dec
A Shift in Perspective for 2020!

Let me start by sincerely asking… ‘How are you doing? Are You Okay?

For many people, 2020 has proved a challenging and tedious year. If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that resiliency always wins! For some, storms of illness, financial difficulty, social unrest and depression have overwhelmingly swept upon once-peaceful lives.

Quarantines and social distancing have prohibited many from joining with family and close friends for nearly a year, and as Year 2021 approaches that will likely still remain the case for many.

More than ever all the small things have become bigger.

We’ve gone to bed puzzled and perplexed at night, woken up with uncertainties of what could be… not knowing what the next day, week or month would bring.

From eating in a restaurant to seeing a movie, to physically being able to hug a friend, or embracing outrageous political differences with little space to vent, to just listening to each other’s heartbeat when anxiety sets in, unveiling heartaches when headlines deliver sour news, or proclaim happy-thoughts when sudden glimpse of hope comes with the morning dew! we no longer discount the small aspects of life that were once so accessible.

2020 has shifted us to recognize those small things, and the large impact they have: More time alone with our conscience!

What has more time spent alone taught you?

Are we still holding back on circumstantial boundaries? Do we see only difficulty in every trial we’ve encountered this year? or forge ahead like an optimist, see the opportunity in every difficulty?

How can we evaluate these things and come back to God with a grateful heart for such revelations or new ideas?

Hmmm… ‘This year has brought so many of us to our breaking and emerging points. Family bonds once trusted are now tested, trashed or tremendously treasured! friendship values once secured are re-evaluated for sincerity or lack of depth to fill the void and empitness we now face. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating.

From sympathizing with friends, families and clients who’ve lost loved ones to giving mental health support and encouragement about the after effects and lifelong scars of losing a baby, a mother, a father, a brother, a sister, grandparents, all alone… in a-cold isolated pandemic period.. that literally steals the comfort of a warm embrace… ‘an unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few but riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.

We have comforted each other over virtual platforms as though we were there in person! burial rites are performed in a swift due to gathering restrictions, saving the tears to swell up behind face marks or allowing some to run freely on our screens, behind the walls of isolation.

Some of us were bold enough to celebrate milestones, weddings, birthdays or graduations in very restrictive gathering! Some, grateful for an opportunity to start afresh, rebuild broken relationships or mingle again without knowing it would probably be their last in October… #RIPMrsPatriciaEwetuya-Daramola.

A shift in perspective can take us from complacency to content.

Uncertainty can be powerfully intimidating, yet we must make decisions.

Perspective is key in finding joy despite the circumstances this season.

So, like my 9-year-old daughter would explain after going through her scheduled social stories without wearing her prescription glasses, “My perspective on events is much like wearing a pair of glasses. Certain lens will help me see the blur of fear, unknown things approaching or confusion, where another lens can provide me with much needed clarity”

More quality time spent with my 3 kids and Husband of 23-years in 2020 has taught us all Calmness & Clarity.

The perspective that some of the difficulties we face now perhaps are growing us in new and exciting ways. As scary as they look now, we have no idea what kind of good God is spinning out of it.

So, as we approach Year 2021, ditching all the uproar of 2020 behind, it can be easy to feel hopeless, anxious, or even bitter, however we can choose to not fall prey to these feelings.

We can partner with God to give thanks, despite the circumstances… and continue to look up to Him!

This past holiday probably looked different around the dining room table, but connection can still occur. Video chats and phone calls will be a resource to utilize well, but real connection can still occur from such unlikely platforms.

Perhaps gratitude can be found in using these options, and we can have authentic communications of where we all are in heart and mind. This is something to be thankful for, to have exchanges beyond the weather or superficialities, but to dive deeper into outlooks, our state of mental health!

We are all struggling, but we are not struggling alone. Because there is Hope.

Again, whether you find yourself celebrating or grieving these days, feeling hopeful or hopeless, actively choose to trust God to set you free of past battles. For His ways will surely prevail in the end.

We should not discount the faith He is building in us during this time either, for through these hard times He is revealing more of the character being born in us. Birth is painful, but it results in new life.

Perhaps these hardships are birthing a new vibrancy of life for us as we approach 2021.

Happy New Year, Stay Safe as we move forward into 2021.

Yours in HOPE as I share Whitney Houston’s ‘I LOOK TO YOU’

OlaYinka

 

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12 responses to “A Shift in Perspective for 2020!

  1. Peter 'Uyi EREBOR

    January 5, 2021 at 12:53 am

    Captured most part of the season, we now know that those little things in life matters more.. Finding clarity from the simple things in life even in the midst of so much drama!

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  2. Yinka (Anthonia) Gansallo-Lawrence

    January 1, 2021 at 9:09 pm

    Amen and thanks @ Cathy O.

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  3. Cathy O.

    January 1, 2021 at 5:56 pm

    Beautiful piece! You touched on every level! We can all identify with one situation or another as you have so articulately outlined. May we apply the lessons we have learned and may we truly see what is important in the larger scheme of things! Thank you for sharing! More Grace to you💜

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  4. Zoomress

    December 30, 2020 at 8:59 pm

    Another thought provoking write-up. Indeed there was a lot of shifting in 2020 and that helped to sift through all the “stuff” allowing us to see and focus on what is truly important. No matter what 2021 brings, my hope is that we will sieze every opportunity, treasure every relationship and not lose sight of everyday small but important things.

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  5. Alicia A

    December 30, 2020 at 8:55 pm

    Happy New Year Yinka.
    2020! Oh boy! What a year!
    Lost a pregnancy, my Grandma and then my benefit at work!
    But as I approach the end of it all, I am hopeful and praying for clarity and calmness too.
    Thanks for putting my thoughts into words, very well said🙏🏽

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  6. Vivian Al’Conde

    December 30, 2020 at 8:51 pm

    Totally blasting this on Facebook Yinka!!! Love it! Love you more Sis!❤️❤️
    🥳

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  7. Felix Agboola

    December 30, 2020 at 8:50 pm

    I am definitely Partnering with God 🙏🏽 I love your article, always inspiring. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Yvonne

    December 30, 2020 at 8:48 pm

    Yes! There’s Hope for the coming year! Thanks for writing this Anthonia ❤️

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  9. Tega

    December 30, 2020 at 8:46 pm

    Beautiful piece👌

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  10. Kevin Lawrence

    December 30, 2020 at 6:15 pm

    Well, you’ve said a lot of what every rational mind should be pondering at this time.
    I pray this helps to bring us into perspective and enhance our clarity of what is important, neccessary and worthwhile.
    God’s peace!
    Kaylaw

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