It. Takes. Two.

15 Aug


ur partEvery relationship we are in right now is a journey we choose to go on. Whether persuaded, coaxed or dazed by love at first sight.

We all go in it with open minds and crazy expectations! ‘well, except otherwise minded.

Either chasing after imaginary star-studded dreams or collecting a trophy-partner.

While every adventurer on that journey is either never equipped enough to embrace a detour when needed or too rigid in accepting that, there will always be a need for digression. Someday, somehow, when life falters.

So, have you ever looked back at your life, ‘like twenty-one-years ago and wondered whatever happened to the younger you? Youthful zeal outgrown by series of stifling events? Cherished memories erased by blurry visions of life’s challenges? Beautiful people, places and time once known now replaced by leftovers or shadows of their shells?

Are circumstances around you now the determining factors of joy and peace in your life? Is hope still sealed within your heart as you continue to navigate this much-rated pledge called, marriage?

In as much as I try to convince my 3 kids that I was actually “petite, cool and all that” even before I got married 21 years ago…’they always throw their heads back, flash their upcoming and unadulterated wisdom teeth, clap their hands in teenage astonishment with a silly smirk and laugh at me, I guess they find it unbearably inconceivable to accept!


They usually give me that look of…how can? You, Mom? Until they can’t contain it and blurt out saying…


It’s like no amount of the reigning teenager’s dance moves #Scissors #Shoop or #Floss I attempt with them at home during our kitchen-Zumba-dance-show-off could convince these kiddos that hope and patience are still and will always be my wheel of alignment for life…especially in my marriage, that each day brings fresh possibilities and opportunities for us to trust God more.

Mind. Blowing.


Am I missing something in my adult life? Or is the element of hope and patience a thing of despair as we age gracefully in a relationship? Is there a time or age limit for couples to be “cool” and “all that” because they are so comfortable with each other?

Isn’t this the downfall of most relationships this days? When we think ‘we are so grown and over the jolly, child-like courting emotions we used to portray?

When we let go of the spark we used to have, because we have secured a 6 pack man or 6-figure job?

It takes two to tango! It takes two to scatter, it take two to gather!

I usually still do the 80’s and 90’s dance moves or music, just to show my brewing-millennia at home that, “Yeah, mom still got it! Or rather, Mom and Dad still got it! The moves, the vibes, the connection and most of all Hope and patience to get us all through every phase and challenge life brings…


So today as I celebrate my 21st wedding anniversary in a very quiet, intimate, soul-searching, goals setting-getaway with my husband and 3 kids, far-far away on a private Island tucked within the upper peninsulas, our only mode of transportation being loyal-horse driven wagons and rental bicycles, soaking up the sun and getting amazed at the different species of chipmunks and butterflies ever created!

I couldn’t help but reminiscence on the lessons learned and acquired over the years or the path of despair hope helped restored. Hoping someone reading this will lay down the expectations required in their relationships right now and throw it all at God’s will.


  1. Our hope is not hope until it is up against desperate circumstances! Hope is not hope until it becomes the ability to believe in the promise, even when we cannot see the proof – but yet, we are able to rejoice today, for what’s coming tomorrow…

  2. Our patience must also have the capacity to be wronged and not retaliate. To be patient is to have the ability to endure, but it doesn’t stop there when you are hurting. But, it-will-get-better! Be Encouraged!

Yours in HOPE as I share one of my favorite songs from 21 years ago…












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30 responses to “It. Takes. Two.

  1. Anthony Ametu Ajayi

    May 10, 2019 at 2:09 am

    Happy birthday Yinka! May 10 2019. You’re significant to me.


  2. El

    August 23, 2018 at 11:40 pm

    Happy 21st Anniversary! May The Lord continue to bless your marriage❤️


  3. Starbaby

    August 18, 2018 at 2:14 pm

    Congratulations to u both…Life is a journey with so many facets of people you meet along the way. Many are the detours of life; Marriage, l believe it’s a journey just for 2. Two different hearts, that beat as one, different minds that rubs together,different drums that only you two knows the secret code. Once you know the secret code, then twenty-one years of “having the time of your lives”, it’s nothing but a Funfilled journey!
    CONGRATULATIONs….Wishing you a life time of marriage🍾🎉🎷🎺🎻🎸🎂☕️


  4. Kemi

    August 18, 2018 at 8:20 am

    I couldn’t agree more with ” Hope and patience being the source of alignment in life”
    May God continue to bless you and keep you both in love and hope.
    Happy Anniversary 🎉🎉


  5. Mj.

    August 17, 2018 at 3:04 pm

    Wow thank you for sharing! Very inspiring! Happy wedding Anniversafy


  6. Yetunde

    August 17, 2018 at 8:49 am

    Hot mama that is 21 yrs married. I salute you Mummy Tonia. God is forever faithful.
    You and my dear Uncle will celebrate many more years in Jesus name. At least 80 more years in great shape and best of health!


  7. Bube

    August 17, 2018 at 12:42 am

    Inspiring, wishing you many more blissful years ahead in Jesus mighty name


  8. Layo ESQ.

    August 17, 2018 at 12:41 am

    Great piece


  9. Bukky

    August 17, 2018 at 12:39 am

    Great write up, brings things into perspective.
    Happy Anniversary


  10. Ope

    August 17, 2018 at 12:38 am

    Happy anniversary auntie. You’re loved much.❤


  11. TO

    August 17, 2018 at 12:38 am

    Happy Anniversary Aunty, may God continue to be the guide and protect of your family in Jesus name. Regards to everyone 💕💕


  12. Bunmi A.

    August 17, 2018 at 12:37 am

    Happy Anniversary sis!! I’m sure you are having a great time. God bless you always.


  13. Maxine

    August 17, 2018 at 12:35 am

    Lovely pic 😍


  14. Atinuke U.

    August 17, 2018 at 12:33 am

    Happy 21st Wedding Anniversary and beyond. May God continue to be your guide and guard Amen🙏🏼


  15. Oyin

    August 17, 2018 at 12:31 am

    Congrats on your anniversary aunty great write up
    And yes you are cool. Enjoy the private island!


  16. OB

    August 17, 2018 at 12:29 am

    I Love it.
    Abeg where una buy that T-shirt from?💖💖💖


  17. Mary

    August 17, 2018 at 12:27 am

    Beautiful! Congratulations my sister!


  18. Uwa

    August 17, 2018 at 12:25 am

    Happy anniversary sister Yinka! This is such a beautiful write up.


  19. Ifeyinwa

    August 16, 2018 at 8:44 pm

    Yinka how u dey
    :Wow! 21yrs congrats dear
    MY love to d kids and uncle folarin


  20. Ruth

    August 16, 2018 at 4:59 am

    This is a lovely piece auntie! May your union continue to experience more love and peace. Happy anniversary to my favourite couple!


  21. Ifeoma

    August 16, 2018 at 3:12 am

    Love it!!! Congratulations love birds!!!


  22. Sunshine Group

    August 15, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    More years of good health and youthful-bond in marriage! You inspire us all!


  23. Molly

    August 15, 2018 at 7:39 pm

    Beautiful write up Yinka.
    This speaks to me.
    Thanks for sharing.


  24. Debbie

    August 15, 2018 at 5:35 pm

    I love Mackinac Island!!! Got married there 5 years ago. It was so magical with the horse driven carriages and 5 course meals at the Grand Hotel!!
    Love your write up all the way..
    You’re amazingly gifted!!


  25. ABIKS revolution.

    August 15, 2018 at 5:33 pm

    Awesome read! Am learning and growing from your messages. Congratulations Sis! Looking forward to my 10th next year and praying to have you at my book signing too in Manchester.


  26. Amanda

    August 15, 2018 at 5:29 pm

    Totally on point!
    You must discuss this at our next ladies’s gathering, please.
    Congrats, you always deliver your message with strong baseline.
    Keep it up.


  27. Margaret

    August 15, 2018 at 5:27 pm

    Beautiful write Yinka. Still waiting on your book release!


  28. Daniella

    August 15, 2018 at 5:26 pm

    Happy anniversary Folayinka, more blessings. You both inspire me.


  29. Daisy G.

    August 15, 2018 at 5:25 pm

    Very inspiring.


  30. Biola

    August 15, 2018 at 5:04 pm

    Wow! I love this!



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