Here we go again! It’s another Valentine’s Day – FEB 14th.
I guess it’s another day for everyone who claims or pretends to be in love, falling in love, crazy about someone, or just a routine gesture of forced emotions to declare their un-solicited affection. It is indeed another season to pretentiously or sincerely spend money on un-wanted flowers (that eventually will wither and decay in the trash can), another reason to spend a little more on chocolates, expensive dinner and some humungous teddy bear that eventually becomes a hoarder’s delight.
Hmmm, don’t get me wrong! Am not against celebrating this much-ado-about everything event called Valentine’s Day! I think over the years I have gotten a fair share of my own fantasy and now so used to simply not waiting till Feb 14th to tell or show those around me how much I really do care about them!
Gone are the days when my girlfriends and I would just marvel in excitement and laugh out loud or calculate the cost of the goodies or the sizes of those spooky looking love-deprived teddy bears we used to receive then in our single-girl season…it’s so funny how naïve and ridiculous we were then (lol).
I mean like, ‘Oh, cos he gave me a huge teddy bear and boxes of assorted Cadbury chocolates….’Aha, he’s the perfect guy! Or “Oh no, He made me a custom-made gigantic valentine card (oh yes, that was the in-thing then, lol) – and the best part of it all was the drama behind the presentation of the card/teddy bear and chocolates! It’s like a young guy going to face a panel of decision makers regarding his future love life. (Lol). “Eh, please kindly accept this as a token of my love” the lover boy would say as beads of sweat gather on his now creased forehead, hair nicely combed back, shoe well-polished and shinning you could still smell the fresh shoe polish, hands trembling as his newly acquired packet shirt is all buttoned up and seems to be choking his neck” His Blue jeans perfume carrying on even after his disappearance. (Lol). Boy oh boy! Phew!
But today in history, where has all the luxury and comfort of romances gone to? Do people still even make those custom made cards, carved out with the letters of the recipient’s name or heart shape? With those long captivating poems that mesmerize and keep your heart dazzled in the awesomeness of fondness? Those things usually come delivered even days before Feb 14th, so by the time its Feb 14th, you are either in love with the sender, thinking about the sender or you are approaching a different route in discovering love elsewhere. Awww, good old memories.
Falling in love was made to be simple, direct and un-complicated.
Now it’s been replaced with non-tangible things, irrelevant platforms and advanced technology that causes friction and disability in true expression. Where has showing love gone to? Is this display of yearly affection guaranteed? What happens next valentine season? Will this love still be evident?
I will be moving past those memories, but lovingly taking every bit of lesson learned from them. Loving those I choose to love does not limit me to Feb 14th. Showing my affection sincerely is a 365day- thing for me. Or even better, some days when I just feel compelled, connected and in tune with what deep affection has to offer me…
Hopefully, we all can genuinely celebrate today and tomorrow and the day after like we STILL are in the valentine-state-of-mind. That really, it’s not only about lovers and couples, but sincerely for everyone or anyone who’s made an impact in our lives, someone who’s touched us so deep inside that their marks leave good memories to cherish… for that someone who out of all the thousands you’ve ever loved, just stands out and truly understands you, for that friend who’s not even thinking of celebrating today because they don’t have a reason to, for that person you know grieving the loss of a dead loved one, for that single who’s wallowed with condemnation and rejection, for that heartbroken-used-to-be-in-love pal who’s given up on love. This is the moment, the time to reach out and hold their hands…or give them your audience.
Hopefully, by the end of today, we can boldly say, ‘Hey! I will still love (be there for you) tomorrow and always. But, as for me, I will love you even better than today, if tomorrow comes. It’s a promise.
Yours in HOPE as I share James Durbin “Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow” (one of my favorite rendition).
9 thoughts on “Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow…”
True love is eternal, which bears all wrong and forgives easily without grudge. True love gives Internal peace cos its real, hapi val swty.
So true. Thanks for sharing. I am celebrating today all by myself, thanks for reaching out! Thanks for the words of encouragement last night. 🙂
Well said. Love your descriptive summary.
I’d rather stay home, give my valentine a good body massage, make her a special or her favorite meal and just talk. Why must we waste so much money on buying things that we are not even sure of. You are right, so what happens the day after and the month after thst, love should not be limited to that day, it should be direct and not complicated. Thanks for sharing. Happy Valentine’s day Yinka!
The only two times I’ve seen guys just connect and chat with each other even when we’re all total strangers is when watching a 🏈 game in a bar and when at the gift store on Valentine’s Day. You won’t get this as a lady, lol, and if you listened to some if the conversations, you might turn down the gift. Where the heck did this dubious culture come from? SMH! Thanks for sharing and stretching our reach for this “dreaded day” of love.
Aaaahhh, Yinka, gracious Lord! The things you remember, looool. You forgot to mention that sweetheart heart dance and hot raps at The place on Biden Thomas!! Remember??? Lol. That was something else. Thanks for taking us back in memories on how romances was done. I bet I also spend more time getting stuff ready for the children in forget I actually lived once, lol. Lov u gal!
Miss Gansy! !
We miss you o!! Port Harcourt misses you o! Lol
Happy Valentine’s day my sister!
Got a crush on you theme is my favorite Valentine’s day display. Absolutely love your memories. Priceless.
Very nice write up Yinka. Happy Valentine’s day my dear.