Distraction, Downtime, Discouragement, Disappointment, Disapproval…
Why do we give up our sacred space so easily? Because space is scary. During these temporary voids of distraction, our minds return to the uncertainty and fears that plague all of us. To escape this chasm of self-doubt and unanswered questions, we tune into all of the activity and data for reassurance.
Ever had a moment in the shower, when you are completely isolated, and your mind is able to wander and churn big questions without interruption. However, despite the incredible power and potential of sacred spaces, they are quickly becoming extinct. We are depriving ourselves of every opportunity for disconnection. And our imaginations suffer the consequences.
The need to be connected is, in the largest and most fundamental human desires. Our need for a sense of belonging comes right after physical safety. We thrive on friendship, family, and the constant affirmation of our existence and relevance. Our self-esteem is largely a product of our interactions with others. It is now possible to always feel loved and cared for, thanks to the efficiency of our “comment walls” on Facebook and seamless connection with everyone we’ve ever known. Your confidence and self-esteem can quickly be reassured by checking your number of “followers” on Twitter or the number of “likes” garnered by your photographs and blog posts.
But really! – do we require this insatiable need to tune in (insecurity work) to reassure ourselves? We cannot rely on spaces that force us to unplug to survive much longer, we must be proactive in creating these spaces for ourselves. And when we have a precious opportunity to NOT be connected, we should develop the capacity to use it and protect it.
Reclaim your own sacred space today – cultivate a healthy habit that does not need external approval. Join the gym, Read or write a book, turn off all electronics, roll on the floor with the kids, sing in the shower, laugh out loud and cry if it hurts! drop by a shelter or visit an elderly neighbor, reach out to someone needy -and best of all – Spend quality time within your heart – your “sacred space”.
I am believing someone to finally reclaim their long abandoned space – fill the void by settling down after De-cluttering, have confidence about Waiting and exhale freely in their new Space.
May God help us all.